Yes, today is the day I gracefully take the win

Yes, today is the day I… gracefully take the win

3-2018

Own the wins like a champ. No apologies, no minimizing it to “it’s just luck”, no comments saying  “anyone could’ve done it”.

I used to get embarrassed anytime anyone ever complimented me. Actually, I still get sheepish with compliments, & i typically have the initial urge to say “it’s no big deal”.

But one thing I’ve been working hard in the last few years is to accept compliments from others unapologetically. It’s tough, especially when one desires the personality trait of humbleness. But I’m a firm believer (at least now I am) that it is simultaneously possible to be humble yet proud.

Today I received some great news. I passed. And with flying colours, so I heard.  My 20’s something self would’ve sheepishly put my head down and hesitantly murmur my pass if it passively came up in conversation.

When I reflect, this is equivalent to someone finding the sunshine, & trying to hide that sunshine from others to see. While I also don’t encourage boastfulness or conceitedness, I think it’s important for people to recognize their strengths, self included.

SHARE YOUR SUNSHINE.

Because sunny days won’t always be up ahead of you. I know this from personal experience with failures &  setbacks & loss. And when you get back up from these types of situations, all the more reason to celebrate.

So today is the day I gracefully took my win.

I encourage you to Learn to:

❤️ Say THANK YOU proudly ❤️ Smile & share your successes ❤️Do a silly dance, or just like me….carry that folder with your certificate around…lol ❤️ Post a photo of the moment ❤️ Encourage others to do the same

And I encourage you….to take your win unapologetically.

Always, SoireeFrillsCo.

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Believe in the magic

I’m Soiree, not sorry.                                         Celebrating unapologetically                                             1-2018

Believe in the Magic

New year, re-newed you. So today I decided that my 2018 mantra is this: “Believe in the Magic” & “You’ve got this”. Powerful messages that consistently remind you can be the difference. The difference that moves you from where you currently are to where you wanna be. And this year, I choose to believe that everything has the potential to be magic.

Believe in the magic of :

❤️ Your heart ❤️Human kindness ❤️ Passion ❤️ Dreams & inspiration ❤️ Unicorns ❤️Boss-like hustle ❤️ Positive synergy ❤️ Failings turnt success ❤️ Hard work

And most importantly….❤️ YOU. Believe in the magic of you. 

My superpower is that I am SoireeFrillsCo. And I know (cross my fingers) there is no other SoireeFrillsCo. So what’s your superpower? If you don’t already know, You are the superpower,  & you are the magic. Werd.

Happy New Year. Here’s to reset. Cheers to another attempt at daily blogging.

 

 

The weekly review- week 2

I’m Soiree, not sorry               Celebrating, unapologetically

The weekly review- Week 2

Approximately 14 days in and it’s slowly becoming habit- the daily blogging (or at least knowing what each daily post is going to be about- the literal posts may be delayed by a day or two) and continuing to build my mindfulness skill set.

I had to re-visit what my week 1 review said. Ironically, the two items which I struggled the most with last week were my 2 strengths this week- “physical activity” & “pay it forward”. As it happened, this was unintentional. I did not seek out to improve those 2 deficits this week. But just like magic, coincidentally, these areas were strengthened.

This week, I conquered winter running, a bucket list I’ve been procrastinating for years. And in a couple blog posts this past week, “kindness” & “paying it forward” really resonated.

Without getting in too much detail, this week has been bombarded with not so good news. But, …. what I can say is this….despite being bombarded with unexpected & unpleasant occurrences, finding those moments of kindness  given by others, as well as finding those pockets of moments to give kindness to others, has made life that much more bearable. I was also able to find a new hardcore physical activity (winter running) that allowed me decompress this week with life shenanigans. And maybe life, as my mantra says (celebrating unapologetically) , is about learning to deal with life’s both delightful & unpleasant incidences the best way you know how…and maybe, there really is no right or wrong way to ride out these delightful or unpleasant occurrences.

Here’s to week 3 #Soireeprojectgrowth

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Word of the day

I’m Soiree, not sorry
Celebrating, unapologetically

Word of the day

Expanding my vocabulary & language  usage is one my daily bucket list items. For years, my goal has been to learn one new word a day. Now I get a chance to do just that.
It’s on my list for a number of reasons. Scrabble. Crossword puzzles. Become more articulate. Sound more academic. Become a better writer. And last not but least, maybe if I mix in some mumbo jumbo when I don’t have a hot clue to a question, at least all that jargon will make me sound like I know what I’m saying. Lol.
The word of the day today is “extrapolate”.  I heard it on a tv show today. I have to say, trying to come up with a word of the day has made me increasingly aware of what others are saying and how they are saying it. Go figure, imagine the reason why I do something ends up benefiting another purpose or cause. Funny how life works out. You aim to make orange juice, and then you get a pineapple orange juice. And sometimes the byproduct you get is even better than what you originally sought out for. Now this is what this #SoireeProjectGrowth is all about: uncovering processes in undefined ways. Werd.

Where does the story begin

I’m Soiree, not sorry
Celebrating, unapologetically

Where does the story begin?

We all have a story. And every story has beginnings. And when you’ve come a long way, it is beautiful to reflect how the journey began.
I saw this phrase painted on a wall two days ago (as featured in the picture above) ; & it was very symbolic of where my headspace was at.

Take a moment to appreciate all the highs and lows of how you got to where you are. It isn’t always about having a great ride throughout the whole duration of time. You wouldn’t be the person you are without the entirety of the whole. And maybe you wouldn’t be as strong or resilient if you didn’t have those bumpy moments. And when you have those great moments, they can be a reminder of what you have….. and what you can have. This applies to relationships, your career, your dreams, and everything else in between.

Life, and loss, makes you reflect how you currently spend your time on, & makes you appreciate what you want to make time for & what you don’t want to waste your time on.

Just as stories have beginnings, they too have an ending. But what I am learning is that endings can be the start of a new beginning or a new journey. Or maybe the journey is about continuing on the path but in a slightly different direction.

Beginnings –> endings –> create new beginnings
Funny how life comes in full circle.

Sharing the spotlight

I’m Soiree, not sorry             Celebrating, unapologetically

Sharing the spotlight

Tell them they are great. Tell them that you notice the work they do. Tell them that it matters. And most importantly, tell them that you think of them.

Just because you let someone know they are doing great doesn’t mean it’ll get to their head. Just because you compliment someone else on the work that they do, doesn’t mean it takes away from how you, yourself, are also great. Telling someone they are wonderful doesn’t make you a suck up or a goody-two-shoes.

Allowing others to have the spotlight can bring so much joy to someone’s day, especially in the hustle bustle of the type of society we currently live in. A small gesture of giving something to someone because it reminded you of them, can be so empowering for others, and for you.

I often hear that people say that they are not in the business of what they do to be told they are doing great work. But I  am also a believer in that even if being told you are great is not the sole purpose of why you do what you do, it does not mean you still don’t deserve credit where it’s due every now and then.

Imagine if we lived in a world where giving and receiving compliments was commonplace. How much more beautiful the world would be.

I challenge you to allow yourself to hand the spotlight to people in your life every so often. Allowing others to shine makes you a star.

Opportunities a #girlboss sees, she shall seize

 

Boss: Know no bounds

(the blog for the aspiring novice entrepreneur boss)

Opportunities a #girlboss sees, she shall seize

I read a quote earlier in the week on the Forbes Instagram. “The opportunity of a lifetime needs to be seized within the lifetime of the opportunity”- Leonard Ravenhill.

So beautiful, & so true. Have you ever hummed & hawed on a proposition that was asked of you? That hesitation, perhaps, was some reservation you had about whether or not you would be able to manage a new project. Or perhaps it was the paralyzing fear that tends to come in tandem with new territory. I have been here many times before, only to learn that by the time I was ready say yes & take on the new challenge (which could vary from a few hours, days, or weeks), those opportunities & moments had already gone me by.

Just like milk or bread, opportunities have an expiration date, or shall I say, a shelf life. Given my experience, both as an aspiring girlboss & in my personal life, I’ve learnt that when something good comes your way, you jump on board…and figure out the details later on.

True story: I have one day off from the work week from my main gig. Reality is…that one ‘day off’ really has not been spent as a day off. I am constantly ‘hustling’ on my day off, whether it is taking a course/ attending a class, responding to emails, finalizing craft orders. I feel like I am busier than ever compared to when I was a full-timer at my main gig. One thing that has become truly apparent in the entrepreneurial business, is that each minute counts & that time needs to be maximized. Having your small business requires more time & energy than a traditional ‘nine to fiver’. If you want something, take it like you own it. Once it’s yours, you will have the time to figure out the details later on I can ascertain some of my successes to the fact that I am often the first one to say yes to project proposals without necessarily always having a concrete plan in place  at that given moment. With that being said, a lot of work must be put in after you have seized that opportunity.

So back to my original message, “opportunities that a #girlboss sees, she shall seize”, it’s really about grabbing the bull by the horns & owning it when it crosses your path, because it won’t always be there. All it takes is a few moments before someone else snags something that could’ve been yours….& wouldn’t that suck! Here are some tips that have aided me when I’ve seized the opportunities & needed to figure out ‘now how the heck do I execute what I’ve committed to?”

Expectations: Set specific expectations with the other party (if applicable) & confirm details on the product they are expecting from you. In my line of work, I do custom work, therefore rarely is there any duplication of items. I spend a lot of time confirming & re-confirming orders.

Time frames– deadlines, delivery pick ups, dates of parties, all dates to be specifically set up. A big part of this is also allocating an appropriate timeframe for you to execute your project & ensure there is ample time for it all to materialize.

Progress pics & update reports- I love sending progress photos to clients. I find it helps build rapport with customers; & gets them really excited. Heck, it gets me excited too! As we know, excitement builds momentum.

Consistency- Having a consistent time work schedule of when tasks will be executed & completed helps with the momentum of a project. Consistency also allow you to ensure you get the work done. Trust me, you will encounter issues & unexpected pitfalls.  Consistency & persistence becomes even more essential when these curve balls come your way.

DO NOT underestimate your own amazing-ness This is a biggie. In times of uncertainty & when pursuing some thing new, it is all too easy to get caught up in self-doubt. When that tiny voice of uncertainty begins to chime in, tell that voice it is unwelcome….& continue on with your day. Just remember, you are amazing….and others know it too!! That is exactly why you were chosen amongst the rest at what you do.

The last point is the most pertinent of all. You are amazing! & you deserve all the great opportunities that come your way. They don’t call you (girlboss) boss for nothing.

Yours truly,

SoireeFrillsCo.

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Boss-in-training: No-no bounds

(The blog for my growing girls, who I strive to raise strong fierce ladies & soon-to-be bosses. The ‘don’ts’, followed by the ‘dos’).

Embrace the fear

Dear Elle & Enne,

Never let fear or uncertainty stop you from doing something great.

Earlier last week was a pretty big milestone for you Elle. You started kindergarten, your start of an embarkment of a new adventure in the education system. That first day, you wanted me to stay the whole day (I’m sure, in part, because I made it to be such a big deal) & squeezed my hand a little bit harder when it was time for me to let go.

I told you that today was going to be a great day, and that you needed to find that “great” thing without mommy there. That day, I was so thankful you didn’t cry (because honestly, I think the insides of my heart was doing a mini cry because I was unexpectedly struggling with this transition). Kudos to you Elle.

And for you Enne, this was a transition for you. Since you saw your sister wearing her ‘big girl kindergarten’ outfit, you also insisted wearing a backpack too. And you also insisted on having your photo taken as well.

Don’t let scary changes stop you. Embrace all things that can be fearful, for it is in fear do we experience growth. Opportunities tend to be looming in places where people are brave enough to explore. Someone once told me to be the ‘trailblazer’ in initiating a trend (fine! This is literally in instances pertaining starting a food fine). Elle & Enne, my wish for you is to be that trailblazer. Zoom, off you go.

Love,

Mom