Yes, today is the day I gracefully take the win

Yes, today is the day I… gracefully take the win

3-2018

Own the wins like a champ. No apologies, no minimizing it to “it’s just luck”, no comments saying  “anyone could’ve done it”.

I used to get embarrassed anytime anyone ever complimented me. Actually, I still get sheepish with compliments, & i typically have the initial urge to say “it’s no big deal”.

But one thing I’ve been working hard in the last few years is to accept compliments from others unapologetically. It’s tough, especially when one desires the personality trait of humbleness. But I’m a firm believer (at least now I am) that it is simultaneously possible to be humble yet proud.

Today I received some great news. I passed. And with flying colours, so I heard.  My 20’s something self would’ve sheepishly put my head down and hesitantly murmur my pass if it passively came up in conversation.

When I reflect, this is equivalent to someone finding the sunshine, & trying to hide that sunshine from others to see. While I also don’t encourage boastfulness or conceitedness, I think it’s important for people to recognize their strengths, self included.

SHARE YOUR SUNSHINE.

Because sunny days won’t always be up ahead of you. I know this from personal experience with failures &  setbacks & loss. And when you get back up from these types of situations, all the more reason to celebrate.

So today is the day I gracefully took my win.

I encourage you to Learn to:

❤️ Say THANK YOU proudly ❤️ Smile & share your successes ❤️Do a silly dance, or just like me….carry that folder with your certificate around…lol ❤️ Post a photo of the moment ❤️ Encourage others to do the same

And I encourage you….to take your win unapologetically.

Always, SoireeFrillsCo.

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Beauty in the small things

Beauty in the small things

2-2018

Boss: Know no bounds

Be the boss that celebrates small things– the monthsaries, the one first week you survived a new job or course, the day someone compliments you, the first good day you’ve had in a long time. Yes- celebrate those big things, like birthdays and Christmas, but also spend some time celebrating the dailies. Yes, I said the dailies. The dailies you successfully got out of bed and made it to work on time in semi-clean clothes (which trust me, is a HUGE success when you have multiple small children), or when you haven’t chewed someone’s head pre-coffee. Or when someone tells you you’ve done a good job- because you deserve to hear how great of a job you are doing. Or when you’ve survived the week and made it to Friday. There is no such a thing as too small to celebrate. Trust me, it’s a big deal! Which is why I think I’m a fan of “just because” gestures, greeting cards, & celebrations. I wanna be that boss that celebrates the small things. Because in a  world full of complications, we all deserve a dose of the beauty in the small things. Hint on the horizon: I will have a lot of “just because” merch I plan on creating in the upcoming new year.

Always me, SoireeFrillsCo.

Boss-in-training: No-no bounds

Dear Elle and Enne,

My most favourite thing in the world to see is the sparkle I see in your eyes in the most simplest things. The sparkle when:

 💕I tell you I have a surprise for you    

 💕I walk in the door with sprinkle donuts

💕I  you anything that lights up with bright lights   

💕I tell you we are going out for mac and cheese 

You both are my everything in my everyday. And you teach me & remind me that life is all about the little things. And that there is so much beauty all around us.

Thank you for being my constant reminders of how it’s all about the little things. You are my reasons for why I am passionate about SoireeFrillsCo. You make every little thing worth a celebration.  And one day, when you become adult girl bosses yourselves, you will remember this very point; for it will take you far in this thing called life.

Love, Mom

 

Believe in the magic

I’m Soiree, not sorry.                                         Celebrating unapologetically                                             1-2018

Believe in the Magic

New year, re-newed you. So today I decided that my 2018 mantra is this: “Believe in the Magic” & “You’ve got this”. Powerful messages that consistently remind you can be the difference. The difference that moves you from where you currently are to where you wanna be. And this year, I choose to believe that everything has the potential to be magic.

Believe in the magic of :

❤️ Your heart ❤️Human kindness ❤️ Passion ❤️ Dreams & inspiration ❤️ Unicorns ❤️Boss-like hustle ❤️ Positive synergy ❤️ Failings turnt success ❤️ Hard work

And most importantly….❤️ YOU. Believe in the magic of you. 

My superpower is that I am SoireeFrillsCo. And I know (cross my fingers) there is no other SoireeFrillsCo. So what’s your superpower? If you don’t already know, You are the superpower,  & you are the magic. Werd.

Happy New Year. Here’s to reset. Cheers to another attempt at daily blogging.

 

 

The Bucket List

I’m Soiree, not sorry                                     Celebrating, unapologetically 

The bucket list

We all have a bucket list. It’s a list of all the things one wants to accomplish during the span of one’s lifetime. It’s  funny how experiencing a death of a loved one expedites your desire to get those items on your bucket list checked off.
One thing that is beginning to materialize these past few weeks, is that these bucket list items don’t have to be grand at all.
I am truly finding solace in finding at least one thing to be grateful for; or trying to find at least one way to pay it forward to ignite a random act of kindness; or identifying at least personal strength of mine. And the more I’m consistent with implementing these practices, the clearer it becomes to me that daily mindfulness practices such as these is essential. Maybe I had the idea of bucket list all wrong before. I always thought of bucket list items as large grand event occurrences ( ie. hike Mount Everest). Maybe if we see our bucket list as everyday, acts of kindness & gratitude, then maybe we will find a richness in our daily. Maybe if we shifted our expectations of our bucket list checklist as those beautiful, but often too rare, wondrous life moments, then maybe,…just maybe…..life won’t be that monotonous rigmarole pace we often complain about.

Self, Solo, Strength

I’m Soiree, not sorry                Celebrating, unapologetically

Self, Solo, Strength

Self-care is being selfless. You really can’t take care of others if you don’t take care of yourself first. This is an especially true concept for mothers. As a mom, your instinct is to put your children first before your own needs. While I agree wholeheartedly with this philosophy, everyone,in general, and ESPECIALLY mothers, need to prioritize their self-care as often as they change their underwears (yes, even changing your gitch is self-care).

This past week has been extremely difficult, particularly with the roller coaster of emotions. And it became very apparent that self-care for myself, was critical to fulfilling my other life roles (mother, wife, daughter, health care professional, etc).

So this week I spent a lot of solo time, which was exactly what I needed.

MARKET CRAFT SHOPPING

I went to a large market craft sale, thirdnbird, to be exact, which is fuel for my soul. The energy was amazing, and I got to go at my own pace. Plus, I fed my paper and jewelry addiction, and I bought local artwork & geometric accessories. If you know me, craft shopping is just the best !!!

SOLO COFFEE DATE

It was a brief stop, but nonetheless, a best stop at a trendy coffee shop, Thom Bargen. If you know me well, you would also know I am obsessed with coffee. And I just love sitting in cafes. I can do that for endless hours. I had the best seat in the house, as I watched traffic go down the busy downtown street. And while it was only a brief 20 minutes, it was the most relaxing thing for my mind to wander aimlessly and imagine made up stories of passer-byers (imagining where they were off to, what they were chatting about, etc). I used to do that as a kid all the time. I left feeling recharged,  not only because of the caffeine, but also because I sat in stillness after a chaotic few hours of market shopping.

PAINT NIGHT 

Such therapy. That’s my painting in the featured image for today’s post. It was my first time. And while the painting is far from perfect, this painting is forever staying with me.  It has sentimental value given the timing it was done. It happened earlier this Tuesday when all I wanted to do was stay in my PJs and spend another day watching my PVR shows, and commiserate in my misery. But I mustered all my strength to attend the session I signed up for. In retrospect, it was the best thing I could do for my soul at that moment. Engaging in therapeutic activity has such a powerful impact, especially when for me, creativity is such a passionate outlet for me. That sunset, I take it, is symbolic for beautiful endings, which I needed to remind myself, of how my grandmother led a beautiful life and that her time on earth ended so peacefully. It’s amazing how the world works to emphasize powerful messages, at least I believe this wholeheartedly.

WRITING

This is day 5 of this #Soireeprojectgrowth and what this is doing for me is building consistency. And strength, personal & internal strength. And it’s also emphasizing some daily activities I wanna integrate in my daily habits. So far, so good. Can’t wait for my weekly review to see where I’m at.

Thanks for joining me in my journey thus far.

Opportunities a #girlboss sees, she shall seize

 

Boss: Know no bounds

(the blog for the aspiring novice entrepreneur boss)

Opportunities a #girlboss sees, she shall seize

I read a quote earlier in the week on the Forbes Instagram. “The opportunity of a lifetime needs to be seized within the lifetime of the opportunity”- Leonard Ravenhill.

So beautiful, & so true. Have you ever hummed & hawed on a proposition that was asked of you? That hesitation, perhaps, was some reservation you had about whether or not you would be able to manage a new project. Or perhaps it was the paralyzing fear that tends to come in tandem with new territory. I have been here many times before, only to learn that by the time I was ready say yes & take on the new challenge (which could vary from a few hours, days, or weeks), those opportunities & moments had already gone me by.

Just like milk or bread, opportunities have an expiration date, or shall I say, a shelf life. Given my experience, both as an aspiring girlboss & in my personal life, I’ve learnt that when something good comes your way, you jump on board…and figure out the details later on.

True story: I have one day off from the work week from my main gig. Reality is…that one ‘day off’ really has not been spent as a day off. I am constantly ‘hustling’ on my day off, whether it is taking a course/ attending a class, responding to emails, finalizing craft orders. I feel like I am busier than ever compared to when I was a full-timer at my main gig. One thing that has become truly apparent in the entrepreneurial business, is that each minute counts & that time needs to be maximized. Having your small business requires more time & energy than a traditional ‘nine to fiver’. If you want something, take it like you own it. Once it’s yours, you will have the time to figure out the details later on I can ascertain some of my successes to the fact that I am often the first one to say yes to project proposals without necessarily always having a concrete plan in place  at that given moment. With that being said, a lot of work must be put in after you have seized that opportunity.

So back to my original message, “opportunities that a #girlboss sees, she shall seize”, it’s really about grabbing the bull by the horns & owning it when it crosses your path, because it won’t always be there. All it takes is a few moments before someone else snags something that could’ve been yours….& wouldn’t that suck! Here are some tips that have aided me when I’ve seized the opportunities & needed to figure out ‘now how the heck do I execute what I’ve committed to?”

Expectations: Set specific expectations with the other party (if applicable) & confirm details on the product they are expecting from you. In my line of work, I do custom work, therefore rarely is there any duplication of items. I spend a lot of time confirming & re-confirming orders.

Time frames– deadlines, delivery pick ups, dates of parties, all dates to be specifically set up. A big part of this is also allocating an appropriate timeframe for you to execute your project & ensure there is ample time for it all to materialize.

Progress pics & update reports- I love sending progress photos to clients. I find it helps build rapport with customers; & gets them really excited. Heck, it gets me excited too! As we know, excitement builds momentum.

Consistency- Having a consistent time work schedule of when tasks will be executed & completed helps with the momentum of a project. Consistency also allow you to ensure you get the work done. Trust me, you will encounter issues & unexpected pitfalls.  Consistency & persistence becomes even more essential when these curve balls come your way.

DO NOT underestimate your own amazing-ness This is a biggie. In times of uncertainty & when pursuing some thing new, it is all too easy to get caught up in self-doubt. When that tiny voice of uncertainty begins to chime in, tell that voice it is unwelcome….& continue on with your day. Just remember, you are amazing….and others know it too!! That is exactly why you were chosen amongst the rest at what you do.

The last point is the most pertinent of all. You are amazing! & you deserve all the great opportunities that come your way. They don’t call you (girlboss) boss for nothing.

Yours truly,

SoireeFrillsCo.

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Boss-in-training: No-no bounds

(The blog for my growing girls, who I strive to raise strong fierce ladies & soon-to-be bosses. The ‘don’ts’, followed by the ‘dos’).

Embrace the fear

Dear Elle & Enne,

Never let fear or uncertainty stop you from doing something great.

Earlier last week was a pretty big milestone for you Elle. You started kindergarten, your start of an embarkment of a new adventure in the education system. That first day, you wanted me to stay the whole day (I’m sure, in part, because I made it to be such a big deal) & squeezed my hand a little bit harder when it was time for me to let go.

I told you that today was going to be a great day, and that you needed to find that “great” thing without mommy there. That day, I was so thankful you didn’t cry (because honestly, I think the insides of my heart was doing a mini cry because I was unexpectedly struggling with this transition). Kudos to you Elle.

And for you Enne, this was a transition for you. Since you saw your sister wearing her ‘big girl kindergarten’ outfit, you also insisted wearing a backpack too. And you also insisted on having your photo taken as well.

Don’t let scary changes stop you. Embrace all things that can be fearful, for it is in fear do we experience growth. Opportunities tend to be looming in places where people are brave enough to explore. Someone once told me to be the ‘trailblazer’ in initiating a trend (fine! This is literally in instances pertaining starting a food fine). Elle & Enne, my wish for you is to be that trailblazer. Zoom, off you go.

Love,

Mom

The productivity intention

Boss: Know no bounds

(The blog for the aspiring novice entrepreneur boss)

The productivity intention

Have you ever tried to spend time in your home office (or in my case, your craft space) & mapped out the intention to spend half a day or full day being productive with business related tasks? But instead get side tracked with the dirty dishes that have piled in the sink; or the stains that have caked the floor surface that need scrubbing; or that show that has been sitting on the PVR recorder? And then only to find half the day has zipped on by without you getting done what you initially set out to do. Sound familiar?

About a month ago, I blogged about “managing the circus act”. That blog post focused on managing multiple life roles & relating it to carving out time for your business. Today’s blog has a slightly different slant. This blog is going to focus on making maximum use of time & how it relates to productivity & intention.

For me, I know all the factors that contribute to my lack of productivity. I easily get distracted by certain things like: incoming emails that ring through my notifications; phone calls, small chit chat with friends/ peers I haven’t seen for a while; looking at housework that needs to be done; aimless social media surfacing; & of course on-line shopping.

This led to me devising a course of action so that I can make optimum use of my time (which of course in my world, quiet time without the kiddos is GOLD).

My intentions of getting sh*t done is always well-intentioned. But they always don’t get done. Therefore, my intentions of this blog is to highlight the importance of how it is very possible to get sh*t done when you need it to get done.

Step 1. AWARENESS

The first step in any desire for behaviour change is awareness. Unless you have an idea of the flaws or issues in a certain situation, you won’t be able to proceed with making any changes.

As I’ve pointed out, I already know the specific factors that get in the way of my productivity. Boom. Next step.

Step 2. POTENTIAL SOLUTIONS

Now that you know what the barriers are to your productivity, the natural progression is to then identify the solutions to address what gets in the way.

In my case, these are the solutions to my issues related to productivity. If you have the same barriers as me, then I can only imagine that these would be helpful for you as well.

  1. Change the environment– work outside of the home. Out of sight (chores that need to be done), outta mind. My go-to’s have been coffee shops or book stores. Find the places that ignite your creative juices and motivate you to work.
  2. Clean the desk space– a clear work space always does the trick (but do you know how chaotic a crafter’s space can get?). It allows me to focus specifically on what exactly is in front of me.
  3. Eliminate distractible toys/ items from your sight: Turn off the phone or put it away so I am forced to not look at other social media sites or take incoming phone calls. This includes closing all open windows when I am working on the computer so that I am forced to just focused on one task during computer work.
  4. Take one 10 minute break every 60 minutes. This is my personal ratio that I try to stick to. And I carry the same philosophy so that if I don’t use it, I lose it. That means that I don’t get 20 minutes of break time if I skipped my 10 minutes on a previous hour.
  5. List making. Make a list of what I’d like to accomplish in that time frame & strive to complete what I set out to do.
  6. Use pretty things. Whether it’s a new craft tool, pretty stationary, or attractive office decor, my motivation sky rockets when I use pretty things in my work space. (The trick though is to minimize the use number of pretty things on any given task; otherwise I totally get distracted when I have a lot of pretty craft tools in front of me)
  7. Reward system– My fave of all time. I usually set up a treat for myself AFTER I have completed my desired tasks. For me, it`s a Starbucks drink; a Michaels or Winners run; or purchase of a new craft toy.

STEP 3. SET YOUR INTENTIONS

Setting intentions is about devising a concrete plan of action.

Over the last month, I’ve been really trying to integrate the practice of intention as it relates to productivity. Intention can be defined as two-fold. It can mean the art of executing a planning (ie. her intentions for the day was to finish all the packaging by the end of the business day) ; or it can also refer to the significance or relevance of plan (ie. her intentions to be productive were well & good but things seemed to fall through. See the slight difference?)

For me, visualizing and imagining that I am successful in my plan has greatly assisted me in setting my intentions. When I can visually see my success in my mind, I’ve already set a positive tone and attitude before I have begun to do any of the work. That pre-work has been essential to my productivity level. If I can see it in my mind happening, I can almost start believing that it will unfold exactly as I visualize it. This is very similar to the idea of having mantras or affirmations. The more you say something to yourself (ie. “I got this” or “I can rock it”), the more likely you are to believe that it`s true.

STEP : 4. INTEGRATE THE PLAN OF ACTION

Nike has it right : “Just do it” . Sometimes you have to just jump right in and do it….even when you aren’t too sure how it’s all gonna play out.

Setting your intentions is half the battle; the other part is just doing what needs to get done. There are (many many) moments when I have to remind myself that putting in the work to doing  what you love isn’t always glamorous & isn’t always a piece of cake. When I am able to re-frame & shift my thinking into setting my intentions and fully immersing myself during an allotted time frame to be productive, it is then when I see my productivity being maximized to its fullest potential.

For me, it`s all about the outcome and the wonderful feelings that come with seeing the product of my creations materializing into reality…and of course getting that concrete reward of my Starbucks drink or new craft item.

Motivation of the week: Reading about others putting in long grueling hours into the jobs they love; & the reward of seeing the final product unfold, which makes the tiresome hours of work worthwhile.

Always me,

SoireeFrillsCo.

Boss-in-training: No-no bounds

(The blog for my growing girls, who I strive to raise strong fierce ladies & soon-to-be bosses- The ‘don’ts’, followed by the ‘do’s’)

Work hard, play harder. Harder play comes after hard work.

Dear Elle & Enne,

Carve out time to prioritize your responsibilities. While I am a big fan of the philosophy of “no work and all play is no fun”, responsibilities need to be taken care of.

Plan out time to get stuff done so that you can reap the rewards of what you have sown. You have to work hard to get what you want because they don’t magically appear. 

Don’t procrastinate in the things that need to be done; or the things you want; for wasting & idling time is so wasteful. Time is always ticking & unfortunately we cannot ever get the time back that ticks on by. 

Yes, we all want playtime, but playtime will be so much more rewarding when what needs to get done is checked off from our to-do list. 

Get up & start the day in knowing what needs to be done. Get it done, then play. 

Work hard, play hard, then work harder some more. Work work work, play play play!  

Use every moment and every minute to your advantage. Because if it’s one trait I want you to know about your mama, it’s that I am a big fan of making each minute count. And contrary to what you may hear, hard work, not luck, gets you to where you want to be. 

 

Love, Mom.