The weekly review- week 2

I’m Soiree, not sorry               Celebrating, unapologetically

The weekly review- Week 2

Approximately 14 days in and it’s slowly becoming habit- the daily blogging (or at least knowing what each daily post is going to be about- the literal posts may be delayed by a day or two) and continuing to build my mindfulness skill set.

I had to re-visit what my week 1 review said. Ironically, the two items which I struggled the most with last week were my 2 strengths this week- “physical activity” & “pay it forward”. As it happened, this was unintentional. I did not seek out to improve those 2 deficits this week. But just like magic, coincidentally, these areas were strengthened.

This week, I conquered winter running, a bucket list I’ve been procrastinating for years. And in a couple blog posts this past week, “kindness” & “paying it forward” really resonated.

Without getting in too much detail, this week has been bombarded with not so good news. But, …. what I can say is this….despite being bombarded with unexpected & unpleasant occurrences, finding those moments of kindness  given by others, as well as finding those pockets of moments to give kindness to others, has made life that much more bearable. I was also able to find a new hardcore physical activity (winter running) that allowed me decompress this week with life shenanigans. And maybe life, as my mantra says (celebrating unapologetically) , is about learning to deal with life’s both delightful & unpleasant incidences the best way you know how…and maybe, there really is no right or wrong way to ride out these delightful or unpleasant occurrences.

Here’s to week 3 #Soireeprojectgrowth

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kindness is magic

I’m Soiree, not sorry                Celebrating, unapologetically 

Kindness is magic

Freebies are the best. I was lucky and fortunate to receive a whole month free subscription to the headspace app. And it is the most amazeballs mindfulness app I’ve come across thus far. If you have a chance, check it out; you get the first 10 foundations sessions for free.

And as luck would have it, as my friend was just telling me that if I ever get a free trial voucher to give away, & to keep her in mind, a free voucher to give away appeared on my account! Voila! And it was just like magic! I kid you not. It literally felt like magic. I received something good; and the same magical thing materialized for me to give back to someone else….at the exact same moment we were talking about giving one to her. And boy did it feel good to be able to give back the same thing to someone else that initially made me happy. I like to think of this as the ripple effect.

Maybe each magical gesture can lead to other magical gestures given by the receiver. Maybe this is what people talk about when they say that kindness breeds more kindness. Kindness is contagious, kindness is magical. And I’m glad I got to share a piece of that magic and be part of that rippling effect. I’m glad that “pay it forward” has been part of this #Soireeprojectgrowth because it is certainly emphasizing that human kindness has infinite bounds. Imagine if we give a bit of magic everyday through small acts of kindness. Maybe more of the world would then see the world as rainbows 🌈 and unicorns 🦄

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Word of the day

I’m Soiree, not sorry
Celebrating, unapologetically

Word of the day

Expanding my vocabulary & language  usage is one my daily bucket list items. For years, my goal has been to learn one new word a day. Now I get a chance to do just that.
It’s on my list for a number of reasons. Scrabble. Crossword puzzles. Become more articulate. Sound more academic. Become a better writer. And last not but least, maybe if I mix in some mumbo jumbo when I don’t have a hot clue to a question, at least all that jargon will make me sound like I know what I’m saying. Lol.
The word of the day today is “extrapolate”.  I heard it on a tv show today. I have to say, trying to come up with a word of the day has made me increasingly aware of what others are saying and how they are saying it. Go figure, imagine the reason why I do something ends up benefiting another purpose or cause. Funny how life works out. You aim to make orange juice, and then you get a pineapple orange juice. And sometimes the byproduct you get is even better than what you originally sought out for. Now this is what this #SoireeProjectGrowth is all about: uncovering processes in undefined ways. Werd.

Hit refresh

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Hit refresh

Refresh & replenish. The two ‘R’s that I can often struggle with. Historically, I’ve been a night owl who can be functional with minimal sleep. I like to compare this to a car who runs the gas tank to the very last few drops. As I age, it is becoming apparent that the habitual patterns that I used to practice is no longer viable. It must be age that is getting to me. I’m aiming to get more sleep these days. I won’t say how much more, because frankly, it’s still way less than the recommended amount than What is suggested based on research studies. I guess, the bottom line is, improvement is improvement any way you look at it. Refreshing and replenishing doesn’t always have to equate to getting sleep. If replenishing my stock is nourishing my soul with activities that I enjoy, them perhaps it’s a balancing act of getting (literal) sleep and doing those things I love. Afterall, isn’t life about doing what ignites your soul on fire? At least in my world it is. In a world where time is often given for others, the least I can do is carve some time for me. If you can’t hit that refresh button every so often, then how are you going to enjoy the moments in the present?

The relay race

 

I’m Soiree, not sorry
Celebrating, unapologetically

The relay race

One of my favourite childhood memories from elementary school is doing relay races. I loved the idea of handing off the baton to your team mate and cheering each other on; or patting each other to tell you you are doing a great job, even when you trip or fall behind the other teams.

Getting through a LOOOONNNGGG race is only possible when you have a team to hand off that baton. You will get tired. You will need a physical and emotional break to re-charge. You will need that water break.

And it’s always good to know who’s great at what & know each other’s strengths are. For example, I love setting the pace, therefore I know I like to go first. And I also know I don’t like being the anchor….( or last one). Sometimes the excruciating pressure to finish well can get to me and cause a few stumbles. And there are people who love being anchor. So guess who gets to be the finisher? Yup, that person who loves doing just that!
Being in a relay race with your team is like family. They are your essentials to get through this thing called life. They will pick up the parts where their strengths are better in certain aspects.They will cheer you on when you are doing great. And they will tell you when you need to pick up the pace when you are falling short of your game. They are the ones who will shed those same sweat and tears during your run. And they are the ones that make the defeats less isolating, the victories that much sweeter, and the the game much more meaningful. And when you are lucky, you will get to run with the same relay race team throughout multiple (victorious an some not-so-victorious) relay races.

Run. Baton. Handoff. Refresh. Repeat.

Where does the story begin

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Where does the story begin?

We all have a story. And every story has beginnings. And when you’ve come a long way, it is beautiful to reflect how the journey began.
I saw this phrase painted on a wall two days ago (as featured in the picture above) ; & it was very symbolic of where my headspace was at.

Take a moment to appreciate all the highs and lows of how you got to where you are. It isn’t always about having a great ride throughout the whole duration of time. You wouldn’t be the person you are without the entirety of the whole. And maybe you wouldn’t be as strong or resilient if you didn’t have those bumpy moments. And when you have those great moments, they can be a reminder of what you have….. and what you can have. This applies to relationships, your career, your dreams, and everything else in between.

Life, and loss, makes you reflect how you currently spend your time on, & makes you appreciate what you want to make time for & what you don’t want to waste your time on.

Just as stories have beginnings, they too have an ending. But what I am learning is that endings can be the start of a new beginning or a new journey. Or maybe the journey is about continuing on the path but in a slightly different direction.

Beginnings –> endings –> create new beginnings
Funny how life comes in full circle.

The weekly review- week 1

I’m Soiree, not sorry
Celebrating, unapologetically

The weekly review- week 1

Self-compassion. Forgiveness. It’s hard to get through everything on your list. It’s even harder to be compassionate towards yourself when you fall short of what you hoped to achieve. And I know that I get disappointed when things are not checked off my list.
Mindfulness meditation has been one of the easier activities to tackle this week. The more challenging one(s) are “physical activity”and “pay it forward “. But I must say, one cool process that is starting to take unfold, is that now, every so often throughout the day, I will mentally find opportunities where I can consciously do those 12 items on the list. Mindfulness and intention.
My plant, by the way is starting to grow new buds….and roots on the fallen leaves are starting to grow. Go figure. This has been a neat experiment thus far.

Here’s to week two.