Defining the #Girlboss

 

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I’m Soiree, not sorry. Celebrating unapologetically

Boss: know no bounds

     The blog for the aspiring novice entrepreneur boss

Defining the #Girlboss 

Find what works for you. Part of being a #Girlboss is capitalizing on your strengths & leaving out what doesn’t work for you.

When you’re a novice #girlboss, sometimes you don’t know what works….try it out. You fail, keep that mental note, & try a different strategy. Remember this,… failure is part of the process. But it does not define you. You can only know what you’re made of if you go for it. You will never have growth if you stand still.
At the heart of it all, as long as you are authentically YOU, people will fall in love with you and your product. Don’t try to be a mould of someone else, because people will see right through the phony. And when you’re trying to be someone you’re not, it always feels so effort-FULL.

KNOW WHO ARE. AND OWN WHO YOU ARE.

I’m loud. So I gravitate towards colour & patterns.
I’m a lone wolf. So I work alone. On my own terms. On my schedule. (Because goodness knows the other side of my life is full of regimented deadlines & working for someone else).
SoireeFrillsCo is my creative outlet, my thing, my “one different cloth”.
Do what works for you. Ask yourself “How do I envision my one different cloth?”
Answer that….& you’ll be golden.

Always, SoireeFrillsCo.

Boss-in-training: No-no bounds

The blog for my growing girls, who I strive to raise strong fierce ladies & soon to be bosses. The ‘don’ts’, followed by the ‘do’s’

 

 

 

The bravery in the guts & glory

Dear Elle & Enne,

Don’t be afraid to step on toes. You want it, go get it. Someone else wants the same thing, wish them well & mentally prep yourself and say “I deserve this too”. You will learn, that as nice as it is to be nice and fair to everyone, life does not always work that way. Life and positions are filled with competition. There is always typically a winner, runner ups, & honourable mentions. You may as well this early on in life. It’ll save you heartache in the long run, trust me.
Never feel the peer pressure to step down from something you want to pursue just because somebody said you weren’t good enough, tall enough, strong enough, or tough enough. Be bold and fierce in what you want. Use both your voice and actions to go for what you want.
It isn’t about just saying something- because all talk and no game is cheap. Doing what you set out to do is admirable; but saying what you want out loud AND going for it is guts & bravery. I want you to be brave. I want you be all about guts and glory. Because, that, my girls, is how girlbosses grow.

P.S.  Congrats Elle on graduating kindergarten.

Love, Mom.

 

 

 

 

CURRENT SITUATION –

Defining your intentions for the day during THE GOOD, THE BAD, & THE UGLY.

“Today is the day I…….”

 

THE GOOD
Today is the day I……
Show a random & spontaneous act of kindness towards BOTH an important person/ peeps in my life & a stranger without expecting anything in return.
❤️ Buy someone coffee the way they like it

❤️Bring someone their favourite dessert after a rough day or week

❤️ Tell them that you thought about them after walking by a building that reminded them of you or a coffee shop you used to frequent

 

 

❤️ Tell them that you still have a sticky note they wrote you years ago

❤️  Bring them their favourite food when you buy food for yourself….even when they say they don’t want anything. They can always eat it later.

❤️ Give up your donut & trade for another when the person behinds you want the donut you have in your box but the store ran out of it.

 

❤️ Help the mom who is having a hard time pushing her new born in a stroller while her older kid runs ahead

❤️ Compliment how awesome someone’s work is on their Instagram account

* side note- these are all things I’ve done in the past few weeks. I promise, it Feels  fantabulous doing any of these actions. Gratitude & thoughtfulness is contagious.

THE BAD
Today is the day I…….
Divulge in all the chips and desserts because tomorrow is another day to reset & start fresh.
👉🏼 know that today’s pitfalls do not define who you are; & there is always another chance to try. ( or not try) again.
I indulged in lots of ketchup chips & onion ring chips as I felt sorry for myself that one day…I may have also bought more jewelry that I did not need 😜

👉🏼Side note- thank goodness for snapchat filters that make light of things & make things look better than they really are.

THE UGLY
Today  is the day I …..
👉🏼 absolutely stop Comparing myself to someone else’s progress. Jealousy is a bitch with a nasty stench.

CURRENT CRAFT PROJECTS

 

 

Cards with a twist of sarcasm & humour to lighten up life’s shitty occurrences. And of course, They are a work in process. I’ve also decided that I need more thank you cards; Cutesy card that say “thank you” in multiple ways. You can never say thank you enough times.

🌈Yes- there is one on break ups;
🌈Yes there’s one on falling flat on your face; &
🌈Yes there are ones on friendship.

I’m really excited about them. Stay tuned. The work is already brewing.

 

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Yes, today is the day I gracefully take the win

Yes, today is the day I… gracefully take the win

3-2018

Own the wins like a champ. No apologies, no minimizing it to “it’s just luck”, no comments saying  “anyone could’ve done it”.

I used to get embarrassed anytime anyone ever complimented me. Actually, I still get sheepish with compliments, & i typically have the initial urge to say “it’s no big deal”.

But one thing I’ve been working hard in the last few years is to accept compliments from others unapologetically. It’s tough, especially when one desires the personality trait of humbleness. But I’m a firm believer (at least now I am) that it is simultaneously possible to be humble yet proud.

Today I received some great news. I passed. And with flying colours, so I heard.  My 20’s something self would’ve sheepishly put my head down and hesitantly murmur my pass if it passively came up in conversation.

When I reflect, this is equivalent to someone finding the sunshine, & trying to hide that sunshine from others to see. While I also don’t encourage boastfulness or conceitedness, I think it’s important for people to recognize their strengths, self included.

SHARE YOUR SUNSHINE.

Because sunny days won’t always be up ahead of you. I know this from personal experience with failures &  setbacks & loss. And when you get back up from these types of situations, all the more reason to celebrate.

So today is the day I gracefully took my win.

I encourage you to Learn to:

❤️ Say THANK YOU proudly ❤️ Smile & share your successes ❤️Do a silly dance, or just like me….carry that folder with your certificate around…lol ❤️ Post a photo of the moment ❤️ Encourage others to do the same

And I encourage you….to take your win unapologetically.

Always, SoireeFrillsCo.

Believe in the magic

I’m Soiree, not sorry.                                         Celebrating unapologetically                                             1-2018

Believe in the Magic

New year, re-newed you. So today I decided that my 2018 mantra is this: “Believe in the Magic” & “You’ve got this”. Powerful messages that consistently remind you can be the difference. The difference that moves you from where you currently are to where you wanna be. And this year, I choose to believe that everything has the potential to be magic.

Believe in the magic of :

❤️ Your heart ❤️Human kindness ❤️ Passion ❤️ Dreams & inspiration ❤️ Unicorns ❤️Boss-like hustle ❤️ Positive synergy ❤️ Failings turnt success ❤️ Hard work

And most importantly….❤️ YOU. Believe in the magic of you. 

My superpower is that I am SoireeFrillsCo. And I know (cross my fingers) there is no other SoireeFrillsCo. So what’s your superpower? If you don’t already know, You are the superpower,  & you are the magic. Werd.

Happy New Year. Here’s to reset. Cheers to another attempt at daily blogging.

 

 

The weekly review- week 2

I’m Soiree, not sorry               Celebrating, unapologetically

The weekly review- Week 2

Approximately 14 days in and it’s slowly becoming habit- the daily blogging (or at least knowing what each daily post is going to be about- the literal posts may be delayed by a day or two) and continuing to build my mindfulness skill set.

I had to re-visit what my week 1 review said. Ironically, the two items which I struggled the most with last week were my 2 strengths this week- “physical activity” & “pay it forward”. As it happened, this was unintentional. I did not seek out to improve those 2 deficits this week. But just like magic, coincidentally, these areas were strengthened.

This week, I conquered winter running, a bucket list I’ve been procrastinating for years. And in a couple blog posts this past week, “kindness” & “paying it forward” really resonated.

Without getting in too much detail, this week has been bombarded with not so good news. But, …. what I can say is this….despite being bombarded with unexpected & unpleasant occurrences, finding those moments of kindness  given by others, as well as finding those pockets of moments to give kindness to others, has made life that much more bearable. I was also able to find a new hardcore physical activity (winter running) that allowed me decompress this week with life shenanigans. And maybe life, as my mantra says (celebrating unapologetically) , is about learning to deal with life’s both delightful & unpleasant incidences the best way you know how…and maybe, there really is no right or wrong way to ride out these delightful or unpleasant occurrences.

Here’s to week 3 #Soireeprojectgrowth

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kindness is magic

I’m Soiree, not sorry                Celebrating, unapologetically 

Kindness is magic

Freebies are the best. I was lucky and fortunate to receive a whole month free subscription to the headspace app. And it is the most amazeballs mindfulness app I’ve come across thus far. If you have a chance, check it out; you get the first 10 foundations sessions for free.

And as luck would have it, as my friend was just telling me that if I ever get a free trial voucher to give away, & to keep her in mind, a free voucher to give away appeared on my account! Voila! And it was just like magic! I kid you not. It literally felt like magic. I received something good; and the same magical thing materialized for me to give back to someone else….at the exact same moment we were talking about giving one to her. And boy did it feel good to be able to give back the same thing to someone else that initially made me happy. I like to think of this as the ripple effect.

Maybe each magical gesture can lead to other magical gestures given by the receiver. Maybe this is what people talk about when they say that kindness breeds more kindness. Kindness is contagious, kindness is magical. And I’m glad I got to share a piece of that magic and be part of that rippling effect. I’m glad that “pay it forward” has been part of this #Soireeprojectgrowth because it is certainly emphasizing that human kindness has infinite bounds. Imagine if we give a bit of magic everyday through small acts of kindness. Maybe more of the world would then see the world as rainbows 🌈 and unicorns 🦄

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Word of the day

I’m Soiree, not sorry
Celebrating, unapologetically

Word of the day

Expanding my vocabulary & language  usage is one my daily bucket list items. For years, my goal has been to learn one new word a day. Now I get a chance to do just that.
It’s on my list for a number of reasons. Scrabble. Crossword puzzles. Become more articulate. Sound more academic. Become a better writer. And last not but least, maybe if I mix in some mumbo jumbo when I don’t have a hot clue to a question, at least all that jargon will make me sound like I know what I’m saying. Lol.
The word of the day today is “extrapolate”.  I heard it on a tv show today. I have to say, trying to come up with a word of the day has made me increasingly aware of what others are saying and how they are saying it. Go figure, imagine the reason why I do something ends up benefiting another purpose or cause. Funny how life works out. You aim to make orange juice, and then you get a pineapple orange juice. And sometimes the byproduct you get is even better than what you originally sought out for. Now this is what this #SoireeProjectGrowth is all about: uncovering processes in undefined ways. Werd.

Hit refresh

I’m Soiree, not sorry
Celebrating, unapologetically

Hit refresh

Refresh & replenish. The two ‘R’s that I can often struggle with. Historically, I’ve been a night owl who can be functional with minimal sleep. I like to compare this to a car who runs the gas tank to the very last few drops. As I age, it is becoming apparent that the habitual patterns that I used to practice is no longer viable. It must be age that is getting to me. I’m aiming to get more sleep these days. I won’t say how much more, because frankly, it’s still way less than the recommended amount than What is suggested based on research studies. I guess, the bottom line is, improvement is improvement any way you look at it. Refreshing and replenishing doesn’t always have to equate to getting sleep. If replenishing my stock is nourishing my soul with activities that I enjoy, them perhaps it’s a balancing act of getting (literal) sleep and doing those things I love. Afterall, isn’t life about doing what ignites your soul on fire? At least in my world it is. In a world where time is often given for others, the least I can do is carve some time for me. If you can’t hit that refresh button every so often, then how are you going to enjoy the moments in the present?