Defining the #Girlboss

 

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I’m Soiree, not sorry. Celebrating unapologetically

Boss: know no bounds

     The blog for the aspiring novice entrepreneur boss

Defining the #Girlboss 

Find what works for you. Part of being a #Girlboss is capitalizing on your strengths & leaving out what doesn’t work for you.

When you’re a novice #girlboss, sometimes you don’t know what works….try it out. You fail, keep that mental note, & try a different strategy. Remember this,… failure is part of the process. But it does not define you. You can only know what you’re made of if you go for it. You will never have growth if you stand still.
At the heart of it all, as long as you are authentically YOU, people will fall in love with you and your product. Don’t try to be a mould of someone else, because people will see right through the phony. And when you’re trying to be someone you’re not, it always feels so effort-FULL.

KNOW WHO ARE. AND OWN WHO YOU ARE.

I’m loud. So I gravitate towards colour & patterns.
I’m a lone wolf. So I work alone. On my own terms. On my schedule. (Because goodness knows the other side of my life is full of regimented deadlines & working for someone else).
SoireeFrillsCo is my creative outlet, my thing, my “one different cloth”.
Do what works for you. Ask yourself “How do I envision my one different cloth?”
Answer that….& you’ll be golden.

Always, SoireeFrillsCo.

Boss-in-training: No-no bounds

The blog for my growing girls, who I strive to raise strong fierce ladies & soon to be bosses. The ‘don’ts’, followed by the ‘do’s’

 

 

 

The bravery in the guts & glory

Dear Elle & Enne,

Don’t be afraid to step on toes. You want it, go get it. Someone else wants the same thing, wish them well & mentally prep yourself and say “I deserve this too”. You will learn, that as nice as it is to be nice and fair to everyone, life does not always work that way. Life and positions are filled with competition. There is always typically a winner, runner ups, & honourable mentions. You may as well this early on in life. It’ll save you heartache in the long run, trust me.
Never feel the peer pressure to step down from something you want to pursue just because somebody said you weren’t good enough, tall enough, strong enough, or tough enough. Be bold and fierce in what you want. Use both your voice and actions to go for what you want.
It isn’t about just saying something- because all talk and no game is cheap. Doing what you set out to do is admirable; but saying what you want out loud AND going for it is guts & bravery. I want you to be brave. I want you be all about guts and glory. Because, that, my girls, is how girlbosses grow.

P.S.  Congrats Elle on graduating kindergarten.

Love, Mom.

 

 

 

 

CURRENT SITUATION –

Defining your intentions for the day during THE GOOD, THE BAD, & THE UGLY.

“Today is the day I…….”

 

THE GOOD
Today is the day I……
Show a random & spontaneous act of kindness towards BOTH an important person/ peeps in my life & a stranger without expecting anything in return.
❤️ Buy someone coffee the way they like it

❤️Bring someone their favourite dessert after a rough day or week

❤️ Tell them that you thought about them after walking by a building that reminded them of you or a coffee shop you used to frequent

 

 

❤️ Tell them that you still have a sticky note they wrote you years ago

❤️  Bring them their favourite food when you buy food for yourself….even when they say they don’t want anything. They can always eat it later.

❤️ Give up your donut & trade for another when the person behinds you want the donut you have in your box but the store ran out of it.

 

❤️ Help the mom who is having a hard time pushing her new born in a stroller while her older kid runs ahead

❤️ Compliment how awesome someone’s work is on their Instagram account

* side note- these are all things I’ve done in the past few weeks. I promise, it Feels  fantabulous doing any of these actions. Gratitude & thoughtfulness is contagious.

THE BAD
Today is the day I…….
Divulge in all the chips and desserts because tomorrow is another day to reset & start fresh.
👉🏼 know that today’s pitfalls do not define who you are; & there is always another chance to try. ( or not try) again.
I indulged in lots of ketchup chips & onion ring chips as I felt sorry for myself that one day…I may have also bought more jewelry that I did not need 😜

👉🏼Side note- thank goodness for snapchat filters that make light of things & make things look better than they really are.

THE UGLY
Today  is the day I …..
👉🏼 absolutely stop Comparing myself to someone else’s progress. Jealousy is a bitch with a nasty stench.

CURRENT CRAFT PROJECTS

 

 

Cards with a twist of sarcasm & humour to lighten up life’s shitty occurrences. And of course, They are a work in process. I’ve also decided that I need more thank you cards; Cutesy card that say “thank you” in multiple ways. You can never say thank you enough times.

🌈Yes- there is one on break ups;
🌈Yes there’s one on falling flat on your face; &
🌈Yes there are ones on friendship.

I’m really excited about them. Stay tuned. The work is already brewing.

 

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I’m Soiree, Not Sorry.

  I’m Soiree, Not Sorry.

Celebrating Unapologetically.

THIS IS ME.

Re-introductions are wonderful & should be a necessary process practice: in life, on the floor, in business.
I’m a firm believer that change is one of the only few things in life that is constant.

So today, this is me….for now. Get to know the creator, maker, shaker, decorator, & sometimes baker behind SoireeFrillsCo.

Some ❤️“sweet 16” ❤️shenanigans about lil ole ME. (Notice the 16 facts on the 16th of this month?) if you get to know me, you’ll get to know where my craft ideas and projects stem from.

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1. I am an eternal optimist who thrives on seeing the good in everything, even when circumstances are not optimal. I believe we ultimately hold the power to our fate, and we have the choice to get what we want, or wait till things happen to us. Hint: I don’t know how to wait! 

2. I believe in signs (literally & figuratively) and in the universe sending us signals. 

3. I am a fan of cheesy lame jokes & puns. If others consider it a “dad joke” , that is totally my type of jam!

4. I have tons of planners. And planner accessories. And planner maker supplies. But I have yet to make my own planner inserts and accessories. That is definitely on my to- do list.

5. I am a list maker. But I am also notorious for misplacing or forgetting where I placed that list ( the irony is that I have many planners and journals. Lol) ?maybe there is such a thing as too many? (But the inner crafter in me would never really admit that).

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6. I love mantras & art prints & anything  with motivational sayings. I’m a big fan of BOTH cheesy and crass quotes. You will note, particularly when you know me well, I can curse like a trucker and enjoy humorous sarcasm on occasion. 

7. I thrive on difficult challenges and always up for defying when others say “you can’t ” or “that’s impossible”.

8. I love loud colours & patterns. The louder, the better. My taste is not simplistic or minimalist, though I do adore those styles. It’s just not who I am. You will note that those squares on my IG account are not consistently stylized with the recommended conformed backgrounds. That is intentional.

9. I am a hopeless romantic & am in love with the idea of romanticism, love stories, & happy endings.

10. I will never tire of 80’s themed parties. I’ve hosted at least 3 birthday parties with this theme,..and I will continue to do this theme.

11. I love handwritten notes. One day soon, I’d love to join and/ or create a snail mail movement.

12. I love food. All kinds of food. And coffee. If there is complimentary food at a function, I’m there. Hands down. Even if it means socializing with people when I’m not in the mood. That’s how much I love food.

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13. Running is my newly re-acquainted love. I will grind out the mileage because it’s challenging yet sooo internally satisfying. It literally is about #beatingyesterday. Follow me on my other IG account @runnershirlz to ride along my journey of chasing the unicorn (ie. Boston).

14. I’m all about the little things. Yes- absofuckinlutely, the small gestures matter. The sticky notes, the spontaneous treats, the emails/ texts/ cards to let you know they remembered something pertaining to you, & the impromptu invitations. These are the lil rays of sunshine that make days so wonderful. 

15. I believe in celebrations. And that there is no such thing as a small celebration. The fact that you woke up and got out of bed is a celebration in itself. That deserves a card…or a treat. More cards made from yours truly are on the bucket list. 

16. I have been blessed with 2 lil-boss ladies I call my kiddos & a husband who has always had my back since day one. They love this chick despite all my flaws & random shenanigans & quirky eccentricities. They are my core. I am the lucky one here.

PS. I miss poker. If you are reading this & we used to play poker, someone set up a poker game. I’m down. Gotta dust off my rusty skills.

Every 7th and 16 of the month. My blog posts. Mark it in.Topics will include:

❤️Celebrating you

❤️ My ventures as a novice girlboss

❤️My ventures as a mom raising 2 girl bosses-in-training

❤️ Adulting – & life’s little but not so little moments

❤️ Your current situation (the good, bad, & ugly) 

❤️What tickles your fancy (reviews on books, blogs, crafts, etc)

❤️Current craft projects

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Thanks for reading. And looking forward to this blogging venture with you.

Yes, today is the day I gracefully take the win

Yes, today is the day I… gracefully take the win

3-2018

Own the wins like a champ. No apologies, no minimizing it to “it’s just luck”, no comments saying  “anyone could’ve done it”.

I used to get embarrassed anytime anyone ever complimented me. Actually, I still get sheepish with compliments, & i typically have the initial urge to say “it’s no big deal”.

But one thing I’ve been working hard in the last few years is to accept compliments from others unapologetically. It’s tough, especially when one desires the personality trait of humbleness. But I’m a firm believer (at least now I am) that it is simultaneously possible to be humble yet proud.

Today I received some great news. I passed. And with flying colours, so I heard.  My 20’s something self would’ve sheepishly put my head down and hesitantly murmur my pass if it passively came up in conversation.

When I reflect, this is equivalent to someone finding the sunshine, & trying to hide that sunshine from others to see. While I also don’t encourage boastfulness or conceitedness, I think it’s important for people to recognize their strengths, self included.

SHARE YOUR SUNSHINE.

Because sunny days won’t always be up ahead of you. I know this from personal experience with failures &  setbacks & loss. And when you get back up from these types of situations, all the more reason to celebrate.

So today is the day I gracefully took my win.

I encourage you to Learn to:

❤️ Say THANK YOU proudly ❤️ Smile & share your successes ❤️Do a silly dance, or just like me….carry that folder with your certificate around…lol ❤️ Post a photo of the moment ❤️ Encourage others to do the same

And I encourage you….to take your win unapologetically.

Always, SoireeFrillsCo.

Beauty in the small things

Beauty in the small things

2-2018

Boss: Know no bounds

Be the boss that celebrates small things– the monthsaries, the one first week you survived a new job or course, the day someone compliments you, the first good day you’ve had in a long time. Yes- celebrate those big things, like birthdays and Christmas, but also spend some time celebrating the dailies. Yes, I said the dailies. The dailies you successfully got out of bed and made it to work on time in semi-clean clothes (which trust me, is a HUGE success when you have multiple small children), or when you haven’t chewed someone’s head pre-coffee. Or when someone tells you you’ve done a good job- because you deserve to hear how great of a job you are doing. Or when you’ve survived the week and made it to Friday. There is no such a thing as too small to celebrate. Trust me, it’s a big deal! Which is why I think I’m a fan of “just because” gestures, greeting cards, & celebrations. I wanna be that boss that celebrates the small things. Because in a  world full of complications, we all deserve a dose of the beauty in the small things. Hint on the horizon: I will have a lot of “just because” merch I plan on creating in the upcoming new year.

Always me, SoireeFrillsCo.

Boss-in-training: No-no bounds

Dear Elle and Enne,

My most favourite thing in the world to see is the sparkle I see in your eyes in the most simplest things. The sparkle when:

 💕I tell you I have a surprise for you    

 💕I walk in the door with sprinkle donuts

💕I  you anything that lights up with bright lights   

💕I tell you we are going out for mac and cheese 

You both are my everything in my everyday. And you teach me & remind me that life is all about the little things. And that there is so much beauty all around us.

Thank you for being my constant reminders of how it’s all about the little things. You are my reasons for why I am passionate about SoireeFrillsCo. You make every little thing worth a celebration.  And one day, when you become adult girl bosses yourselves, you will remember this very point; for it will take you far in this thing called life.

Love, Mom

 

Believe in the magic

I’m Soiree, not sorry.                                         Celebrating unapologetically                                             1-2018

Believe in the Magic

New year, re-newed you. So today I decided that my 2018 mantra is this: “Believe in the Magic” & “You’ve got this”. Powerful messages that consistently remind you can be the difference. The difference that moves you from where you currently are to where you wanna be. And this year, I choose to believe that everything has the potential to be magic.

Believe in the magic of :

❤️ Your heart ❤️Human kindness ❤️ Passion ❤️ Dreams & inspiration ❤️ Unicorns ❤️Boss-like hustle ❤️ Positive synergy ❤️ Failings turnt success ❤️ Hard work

And most importantly….❤️ YOU. Believe in the magic of you. 

My superpower is that I am SoireeFrillsCo. And I know (cross my fingers) there is no other SoireeFrillsCo. So what’s your superpower? If you don’t already know, You are the superpower,  & you are the magic. Werd.

Happy New Year. Here’s to reset. Cheers to another attempt at daily blogging.

 

 

The weekly review- week 2

I’m Soiree, not sorry               Celebrating, unapologetically

The weekly review- Week 2

Approximately 14 days in and it’s slowly becoming habit- the daily blogging (or at least knowing what each daily post is going to be about- the literal posts may be delayed by a day or two) and continuing to build my mindfulness skill set.

I had to re-visit what my week 1 review said. Ironically, the two items which I struggled the most with last week were my 2 strengths this week- “physical activity” & “pay it forward”. As it happened, this was unintentional. I did not seek out to improve those 2 deficits this week. But just like magic, coincidentally, these areas were strengthened.

This week, I conquered winter running, a bucket list I’ve been procrastinating for years. And in a couple blog posts this past week, “kindness” & “paying it forward” really resonated.

Without getting in too much detail, this week has been bombarded with not so good news. But, …. what I can say is this….despite being bombarded with unexpected & unpleasant occurrences, finding those moments of kindness  given by others, as well as finding those pockets of moments to give kindness to others, has made life that much more bearable. I was also able to find a new hardcore physical activity (winter running) that allowed me decompress this week with life shenanigans. And maybe life, as my mantra says (celebrating unapologetically) , is about learning to deal with life’s both delightful & unpleasant incidences the best way you know how…and maybe, there really is no right or wrong way to ride out these delightful or unpleasant occurrences.

Here’s to week 3 #Soireeprojectgrowth

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kindness is magic

I’m Soiree, not sorry                Celebrating, unapologetically 

Kindness is magic

Freebies are the best. I was lucky and fortunate to receive a whole month free subscription to the headspace app. And it is the most amazeballs mindfulness app I’ve come across thus far. If you have a chance, check it out; you get the first 10 foundations sessions for free.

And as luck would have it, as my friend was just telling me that if I ever get a free trial voucher to give away, & to keep her in mind, a free voucher to give away appeared on my account! Voila! And it was just like magic! I kid you not. It literally felt like magic. I received something good; and the same magical thing materialized for me to give back to someone else….at the exact same moment we were talking about giving one to her. And boy did it feel good to be able to give back the same thing to someone else that initially made me happy. I like to think of this as the ripple effect.

Maybe each magical gesture can lead to other magical gestures given by the receiver. Maybe this is what people talk about when they say that kindness breeds more kindness. Kindness is contagious, kindness is magical. And I’m glad I got to share a piece of that magic and be part of that rippling effect. I’m glad that “pay it forward” has been part of this #Soireeprojectgrowth because it is certainly emphasizing that human kindness has infinite bounds. Imagine if we give a bit of magic everyday through small acts of kindness. Maybe more of the world would then see the world as rainbows 🌈 and unicorns 🦄

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