The weekly review- week 2

I’m Soiree, not sorry               Celebrating, unapologetically

The weekly review- Week 2

Approximately 14 days in and it’s slowly becoming habit- the daily blogging (or at least knowing what each daily post is going to be about- the literal posts may be delayed by a day or two) and continuing to build my mindfulness skill set.

I had to re-visit what my week 1 review said. Ironically, the two items which I struggled the most with last week were my 2 strengths this week- “physical activity” & “pay it forward”. As it happened, this was unintentional. I did not seek out to improve those 2 deficits this week. But just like magic, coincidentally, these areas were strengthened.

This week, I conquered winter running, a bucket list I’ve been procrastinating for years. And in a couple blog posts this past week, “kindness” & “paying it forward” really resonated.

Without getting in too much detail, this week has been bombarded with not so good news. But, …. what I can say is this….despite being bombarded with unexpected & unpleasant occurrences, finding those moments of kindness  given by others, as well as finding those pockets of moments to give kindness to others, has made life that much more bearable. I was also able to find a new hardcore physical activity (winter running) that allowed me decompress this week with life shenanigans. And maybe life, as my mantra says (celebrating unapologetically) , is about learning to deal with life’s both delightful & unpleasant incidences the best way you know how…and maybe, there really is no right or wrong way to ride out these delightful or unpleasant occurrences.

Here’s to week 3 #Soireeprojectgrowth

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#Mindgamestrong

I’m Soiree, Not sorry                 Celebrating, unapologetically 

#Mindgamestrong

#Mindgamestrong. The ability to use your mind to hustle hard.

It was a cold day (12.05.17). Actually, the coldest day thus far. But I had brought all my winter running gear with me. And it took forever to pack up my stuff.

In true Soiree fashion, I teetered back and forth on the decision…the decision as to whether I should run or not.

I had at least 9 great reasons why i shouldn’t go for my run; some of them included- it was uber cold, the wind is howling, I’ve never really done winter running before so why start now on the coldest day so far. The reasons were compelling. But one of my colleagues, a colleague that knows about my desire to pursue winter running, and whom also actually does winter running themselves, encouraged me to go for it and reminded me of my overarching goal of running a hyperthermic run. They also pointed out that since I brought the proper apparel, I should just do it!

Well…as it worked out, this one reason was enough to override the other ‘at least 9 other reasons’ why I shouldn’t go for my run. And I’m forever grateful that I had that one reason.

Within minutes of starting my run, I knew I made the right decision. Halfway through, I was elated-I was finally doing what I initially set out to do. After the 2 mile run in -27 degree celicus weather, I was smiling ear to ear. 1 day later, I’m still on top of the world & in awe that I DID IT. (as seen in the PhotoGrid pic in featured image).

For one,  I detest being cold. And second, I have a lot of self-doubt when something involves doing something crazy, like running for the first time in the cold, on the coldest day of the year.

Its amazing how powerful the mind can be. But what’s more amazing is how one tiny gesture of encouragement can be everything; that it can be the difference between doing nothing or pursuing something great.

And then the other piece of the puzzle, once you get to the point of going all in, is to psyche yourself and tell yourself repetitively that “you got this”.

#Mindgamestrong. The ability to use your mind to hustle hard. Your ability to cognitively push through the barriers and odds against you to come out on top. #Mindgamestrong.

I have to give credit to the power of influence people  have with respect to your mind game strength. Those peeps are like the wind to the flame, which can can ignite & bring that fire to life….But at the end of the day, it really is up to the person to sustain that fire once the fire gets going. #Mindgamestrong

Where does the story begin

I’m Soiree, not sorry
Celebrating, unapologetically

Where does the story begin?

We all have a story. And every story has beginnings. And when you’ve come a long way, it is beautiful to reflect how the journey began.
I saw this phrase painted on a wall two days ago (as featured in the picture above) ; & it was very symbolic of where my headspace was at.

Take a moment to appreciate all the highs and lows of how you got to where you are. It isn’t always about having a great ride throughout the whole duration of time. You wouldn’t be the person you are without the entirety of the whole. And maybe you wouldn’t be as strong or resilient if you didn’t have those bumpy moments. And when you have those great moments, they can be a reminder of what you have….. and what you can have. This applies to relationships, your career, your dreams, and everything else in between.

Life, and loss, makes you reflect how you currently spend your time on, & makes you appreciate what you want to make time for & what you don’t want to waste your time on.

Just as stories have beginnings, they too have an ending. But what I am learning is that endings can be the start of a new beginning or a new journey. Or maybe the journey is about continuing on the path but in a slightly different direction.

Beginnings –> endings –> create new beginnings
Funny how life comes in full circle.

The pleasantries of the unexpected

I’m Soiree, not sorry
Celebrating, unapologetically

The pleasantries of the unexpected

On my desk was an unexpected, (but pleasant )surprise. The best gestures are the ones that are done “just because”; when there’s no ulterior motivations behind the  gesture. In this day in age, where skepticism and doubt is almost the norm, it is sometimes hard to fathom that there are just genuine, kind souls that actually do exist. But the one thing my heart is opening up to more, especially now that I am trying to at least be cognizant, and ideally practice a daily act of ‘paying it forward’ , the more my mind is opening up to the idea that maybe there are all sorts of genuine acts happening all the time, if only I open up my eyes to see them.
The unexpected piece of knowledge that is starting to unfold within this #soireeprojectgrowth, is that there is soooooo much good in this world,….and that there is so much good to give;  & there are sooo many people doing good things for us all the time,…and yet they can often go unnoticed when our blinders are constantly focused and immersed in the non-stop, go-go-go of today’s cultural pace.

It’s not about seeing the world through rose-coloured glasses, it’s about seeing the world (and people) at face value for what they truly are.
I challenge you to find those unexpected pleasantries,…because maybe, just maybe, you will then realize how present “the good” is in your life (whatever that “good in your life is”); & how that goodness  can multiply exponentially.

Blasting from the past

 I’m Soiree, not sorry,            Celebrating unapologetically 

Blasting from the past

Memories can pop up with the simple senses: a song, a phrase, a scent, an environment.

One of my prompts in my daily journal is “one memory”.

If it’s one thing this recent family death has emphasized for me, it is to think about all the feel-good childhood and adolescent (& even early adulthood)  memories that make you think about the person who passed away.

In a go-go type of world, it is sooo easy to just live life with each fleeting moment without taking a moment to pause; and think. Intentionally. And my world , right now, is just go go go go go go!!!

So here’s to intentional memory-tripping. Among this chaos that goes on your head during time of grief, there must be time to think about the good memories to keep you going. Imagine a world where you sat and immersed yourself in a ‘feel-good’ moment in your life Oma daily basis? Or imagine wher doing ‘blast from the past’ was just common practice?

I’m curious to see where this daily journey takes me. I have to admit, intentional seeking the of “one memory” is challenging, but I anticipate it gets easier with practice. And I anticipate that the more I think about the past, the more I will  have more gratitude.

Thankful- Little gestures turned grand

I’m Soiree, not sorry         Celebrating, unapologetically

Thankful for little gestures turned grand

Today is Thanksgiving in US today.

So how fitting is it to be thankful and grateful for the beautiful things in our life.

Today, in particular, I AM THANKFUL FOR:

🙏🏽 That greeting card I received from a friend who wrote that I was in their thoughts and prayers during this difficult time.

🙏🏽The “thank you” I got from another friend, who told me I was always supportive of her and for being a good friend.

🙏🏽The text  I got from my friend who remembered & asked how my first day back at work was (since the passing of my grandmother).

🙏🏽The simple “how are you” from that friend who showed genuine interest in my wellbeing & stood there to listen to  my story, even when they had somewhere else to be.

🙏🏽When someone noticed I hadn’t been in the office the last few days, which tells me my presence does go noticed.

🙏🏽 My kids & husband, who are always there to brighten my day no matter how the rest of my day is going. They are the epitome of unconditional love!

🙏🏽 My parents and siblings, who have put up with my shenanigans all my life, the good, the bad, and the ugly.

🙏🏽My friends turned into family. They are the people  I choose to let in through these walls of mine.

I am grateful for the strong support system I have,  who are there for me day in and day out in their own little way.

Those everyday gestures that may seem very small, actually do matter & make a huge difference. A simple smile and genuine greeting goes a long way.

Today I am very cognizant of everything that I am grateful for. Part of this #soireeprojectgrowth involves identifying something I am grateful for each and everyday.

How wonderful it is to practice the art of gratitude.

Happy thanksgiving!

 

Own it, Unapologetically

Boss: Know no bounds

(The blog for the aspiring novice entrepreneur boss)

Own it, Unapologetically

After a lengthy hiatus from the blogosphere, I feel rejuvenated & ready to tackle what may come. I did tons of reflection over these past few months. That period of time was much needed. As they say, distance makes the heart grow fonder. And when you’ve been away for some time, you really get to find out who you are, who you wanna be, & how badly you want something. I also believe that intermittent periods of soul searching is cleansing for your inner self. And this time away has re-enforced that I want to continue to pursue this side hustle passion of mine.   With that being said, one thing that was truly emphasized these past months is that to be your own boss, sometimes that means standing your ground & owning up to what exactly it is that makes you ….YOU.

This means owning up to your likes, your dislikes, what grinds your gears, what enlightens you, how you do things, & how you like things done. In the last 3 decades of my life, life experience has taught me this: many peeps love giving unsolicited advice. People will tell you (deliberately I may add) how things SHOULD be done, how things SHOULD operate, what isn’t good, and & how things SHOULDN’T be. It has taken me almost more than 30 years to be able to internalize my thoughts of “Just eat it” to outwardly saying something more respectable such as “that’s not how I see it” to get my point across.

In celebration of being your own boss, some pointers of “owning it” is recognizing your quirks, eccentricities, & preferences. In a nutshell, everything about you is what makes up your brand in your small business, & that is important to recognize.

Here are some things that make me, ME; & what makes up SoireeFrillsCo. , the small business that it is today. (The following content frankly reminds me of a high school yearbook entry,…but I loooove high school yearbooks). On a side note, you may find the following content annoying; which in that case, you can choose to discontinue reading (just saying).

Believer in:  Unicorn & rainbows, coffee- then life

Lover of: cheesy musicals, burgers with goat cheese, breakfast all day, coffee, cheesy puns

Reality morning ritual: running late, coffee deprived, music blaring in the car

GOALS morning ritual: coffee & podcasts, with a side of crafting & mindfulness

FAVE colour schematics for both fashion & décor: Colourful, bright, mismatched, geometric, oversized

FAVE fashion items: Denim, jackets, fashion (fake) glasses, patches, oversized accessories

What grinds my gears: People who don’t follow through; weak coffee, pessimism

Things that motivate me: Other #girlbosses, my kids, criticism

Why I craft: my therapy, it fuels me, I love being part of people’s celebrations through my creations

I own way too many: journals/ planners, (sun)glasses, & stamps

Girl jammers: Taylor Swift, Gwen Stafani, Beyonce, Katy Perry

Boy jammers: The Chainsmokers, Maroon Five, Daryl Ong, Pharrell Williams

Guilty pleasure: I love watching Asian TV drama series (And yes, I do talk & scream at the TV; and ask way too many questions- according to my hubby)

5 Personal attributes:

i) I am a night owl; & love my ‘me-time’ to craft & conjure up new ideas when the rest of my world is sleeping

ii) I love vintage; which is why I love garage sales & thrifting

iii) I am not afraid to do things alone; & quite frankly, I prefer to do most things solo

iv) I see myself as a free spirited bird

v) I am messy, but I can find anything in my mess. And don’t you dare touch my piles!

Boom. I said it. I own it. & I’m not apologizing for any of the above.

The bottom line, my friends, is that the more you are comfortable with who you are, the more you will be able to stand your ground, especially in moments when others will question you/ challenge you/ disagree with you/ or will frankly just tell you that you just don’t cut it. You define you; & your business.

The secret in this line of business of being your own boss is this: the more real & honest you are, especially with yourself, the simpler & more enjoyable life can be, no apologies necessary. OWN IT! As Flo Rida says, “Welcome to my house”.

Yours truly,

SoireeFrillsCo.

Boss-in-training: No-no bounds

(The blog for my growing girls, who I strive to raise strong fierce ladies & soon-to-be-bosses. The ‘don’ts, followed by the ‘do’s’).

 Soiree Not Sorry

Never apologize for wanting to celebrate. Everyday successes are meant to be acknowledged & celebrated. Don’t let other’s pessimism minimize the importance of the joy each day can bring. A few months ago, I heard a few adults complaining about how we now live in a culture that goes over the top for birthdays.  & then they continued to jibber jabber about how “back in the day, all I had was a birthday cake & candle; & that’s all I needed to make me happy….not this orchestra of balloons & backdrops…YADDA YADDA….” & this conversation went on for the next 10 minutes (which by the way, is 10 minutes of  narrow-minded negativity I will never get back). While I understand that today’s culture presents a different type of pressure for this younger generation of parents , newlyweds, & celebrants of all sorts, there is no need to be harsh about other’s people’s choices & lifestyle preferences. But that latter thought got me thinking (no need to be harsh about other’s people’s choices & lifestyle preferences) Who am I to judge if other people are going to be judgy?? Heck, even I can be judgmental… & as this blog post indicates, we all have ideations & opinions; & we can’t help it if they may be vastly different than the person sitting next to you. Maybe the point of it all is that people will have varying perspectives, but that doesn’t mean you have to change anything about how you feel. This is where this blog post topic resonated: SOIREE, NOT SORRY.

Celebrate big. Celebrate small. Celebrate in any way your inner self desires. Celebrate those main holidays & your birthdays; but also celebrate the days in between. Holidays & birthdays are so far in between that if you waited around for just those celebrations, you would be spending more days in a robotic state of fashion.

Elle & Enne, you know those occasional mornings we sleep in, watch music videos, & dance like maniacs in the living room in our PJs? You should be able to do that, even when it isn’t your birthday. You want to have a Trolls themed birthday party with lots of sprinkles on your birthday cake? Done. You want to go to the zoo & have a picnic at the playground just because it’s finally sunny? Okay, let’s do it! You wanna wear glow in the gear before bedtime just because? Right on. Never let anyone tell you that those are ridiculus ideas.

Don’t let others make you feel inferior to wanting to celebrate. Live, love, & laugh. Soiree it up (which by the way, doesn’t necessarily needing a hefty wallet). Everyone wants happiness; and that my girls is my wish for you;…to live large & be happy, frills & all, without having to apologize to  pursue what makes your heart happy. I will 100% always be there to celebrate in any way you like. Lucky for you, I love making party décor & all that frilly stuff.

Love,

Mom