Yes, today is the day I gracefully take the win

Yes, today is the day I… gracefully take the win

3-2018

Own the wins like a champ. No apologies, no minimizing it to “it’s just luck”, no comments saying  “anyone could’ve done it”.

I used to get embarrassed anytime anyone ever complimented me. Actually, I still get sheepish with compliments, & i typically have the initial urge to say “it’s no big deal”.

But one thing I’ve been working hard in the last few years is to accept compliments from others unapologetically. It’s tough, especially when one desires the personality trait of humbleness. But I’m a firm believer (at least now I am) that it is simultaneously possible to be humble yet proud.

Today I received some great news. I passed. And with flying colours, so I heard.  My 20’s something self would’ve sheepishly put my head down and hesitantly murmur my pass if it passively came up in conversation.

When I reflect, this is equivalent to someone finding the sunshine, & trying to hide that sunshine from others to see. While I also don’t encourage boastfulness or conceitedness, I think it’s important for people to recognize their strengths, self included.

SHARE YOUR SUNSHINE.

Because sunny days won’t always be up ahead of you. I know this from personal experience with failures &  setbacks & loss. And when you get back up from these types of situations, all the more reason to celebrate.

So today is the day I gracefully took my win.

I encourage you to Learn to:

❤️ Say THANK YOU proudly ❤️ Smile & share your successes ❤️Do a silly dance, or just like me….carry that folder with your certificate around…lol ❤️ Post a photo of the moment ❤️ Encourage others to do the same

And I encourage you….to take your win unapologetically.

Always, SoireeFrillsCo.

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Beauty in the small things

Beauty in the small things

2-2018

Boss: Know no bounds

Be the boss that celebrates small things– the monthsaries, the one first week you survived a new job or course, the day someone compliments you, the first good day you’ve had in a long time. Yes- celebrate those big things, like birthdays and Christmas, but also spend some time celebrating the dailies. Yes, I said the dailies. The dailies you successfully got out of bed and made it to work on time in semi-clean clothes (which trust me, is a HUGE success when you have multiple small children), or when you haven’t chewed someone’s head pre-coffee. Or when someone tells you you’ve done a good job- because you deserve to hear how great of a job you are doing. Or when you’ve survived the week and made it to Friday. There is no such a thing as too small to celebrate. Trust me, it’s a big deal! Which is why I think I’m a fan of “just because” gestures, greeting cards, & celebrations. I wanna be that boss that celebrates the small things. Because in a  world full of complications, we all deserve a dose of the beauty in the small things. Hint on the horizon: I will have a lot of “just because” merch I plan on creating in the upcoming new year.

Always me, SoireeFrillsCo.

Boss-in-training: No-no bounds

Dear Elle and Enne,

My most favourite thing in the world to see is the sparkle I see in your eyes in the most simplest things. The sparkle when:

 💕I tell you I have a surprise for you    

 💕I walk in the door with sprinkle donuts

💕I  you anything that lights up with bright lights   

💕I tell you we are going out for mac and cheese 

You both are my everything in my everyday. And you teach me & remind me that life is all about the little things. And that there is so much beauty all around us.

Thank you for being my constant reminders of how it’s all about the little things. You are my reasons for why I am passionate about SoireeFrillsCo. You make every little thing worth a celebration.  And one day, when you become adult girl bosses yourselves, you will remember this very point; for it will take you far in this thing called life.

Love, Mom

 

Believe in the magic

I’m Soiree, not sorry.                                         Celebrating unapologetically                                             1-2018

Believe in the Magic

New year, re-newed you. So today I decided that my 2018 mantra is this: “Believe in the Magic” & “You’ve got this”. Powerful messages that consistently remind you can be the difference. The difference that moves you from where you currently are to where you wanna be. And this year, I choose to believe that everything has the potential to be magic.

Believe in the magic of :

❤️ Your heart ❤️Human kindness ❤️ Passion ❤️ Dreams & inspiration ❤️ Unicorns ❤️Boss-like hustle ❤️ Positive synergy ❤️ Failings turnt success ❤️ Hard work

And most importantly….❤️ YOU. Believe in the magic of you. 

My superpower is that I am SoireeFrillsCo. And I know (cross my fingers) there is no other SoireeFrillsCo. So what’s your superpower? If you don’t already know, You are the superpower,  & you are the magic. Werd.

Happy New Year. Here’s to reset. Cheers to another attempt at daily blogging.

 

 

The weekly review- week 2

I’m Soiree, not sorry               Celebrating, unapologetically

The weekly review- Week 2

Approximately 14 days in and it’s slowly becoming habit- the daily blogging (or at least knowing what each daily post is going to be about- the literal posts may be delayed by a day or two) and continuing to build my mindfulness skill set.

I had to re-visit what my week 1 review said. Ironically, the two items which I struggled the most with last week were my 2 strengths this week- “physical activity” & “pay it forward”. As it happened, this was unintentional. I did not seek out to improve those 2 deficits this week. But just like magic, coincidentally, these areas were strengthened.

This week, I conquered winter running, a bucket list I’ve been procrastinating for years. And in a couple blog posts this past week, “kindness” & “paying it forward” really resonated.

Without getting in too much detail, this week has been bombarded with not so good news. But, …. what I can say is this….despite being bombarded with unexpected & unpleasant occurrences, finding those moments of kindness  given by others, as well as finding those pockets of moments to give kindness to others, has made life that much more bearable. I was also able to find a new hardcore physical activity (winter running) that allowed me decompress this week with life shenanigans. And maybe life, as my mantra says (celebrating unapologetically) , is about learning to deal with life’s both delightful & unpleasant incidences the best way you know how…and maybe, there really is no right or wrong way to ride out these delightful or unpleasant occurrences.

Here’s to week 3 #Soireeprojectgrowth

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kindness is magic

I’m Soiree, not sorry                Celebrating, unapologetically 

Kindness is magic

Freebies are the best. I was lucky and fortunate to receive a whole month free subscription to the headspace app. And it is the most amazeballs mindfulness app I’ve come across thus far. If you have a chance, check it out; you get the first 10 foundations sessions for free.

And as luck would have it, as my friend was just telling me that if I ever get a free trial voucher to give away, & to keep her in mind, a free voucher to give away appeared on my account! Voila! And it was just like magic! I kid you not. It literally felt like magic. I received something good; and the same magical thing materialized for me to give back to someone else….at the exact same moment we were talking about giving one to her. And boy did it feel good to be able to give back the same thing to someone else that initially made me happy. I like to think of this as the ripple effect.

Maybe each magical gesture can lead to other magical gestures given by the receiver. Maybe this is what people talk about when they say that kindness breeds more kindness. Kindness is contagious, kindness is magical. And I’m glad I got to share a piece of that magic and be part of that rippling effect. I’m glad that “pay it forward” has been part of this #Soireeprojectgrowth because it is certainly emphasizing that human kindness has infinite bounds. Imagine if we give a bit of magic everyday through small acts of kindness. Maybe more of the world would then see the world as rainbows 🌈 and unicorns 🦄

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#Mindgamestrong

I’m Soiree, Not sorry                 Celebrating, unapologetically 

#Mindgamestrong

#Mindgamestrong. The ability to use your mind to hustle hard.

It was a cold day (12.05.17). Actually, the coldest day thus far. But I had brought all my winter running gear with me. And it took forever to pack up my stuff.

In true Soiree fashion, I teetered back and forth on the decision…the decision as to whether I should run or not.

I had at least 9 great reasons why i shouldn’t go for my run; some of them included- it was uber cold, the wind is howling, I’ve never really done winter running before so why start now on the coldest day so far. The reasons were compelling. But one of my colleagues, a colleague that knows about my desire to pursue winter running, and whom also actually does winter running themselves, encouraged me to go for it and reminded me of my overarching goal of running a hyperthermic run. They also pointed out that since I brought the proper apparel, I should just do it!

Well…as it worked out, this one reason was enough to override the other ‘at least 9 other reasons’ why I shouldn’t go for my run. And I’m forever grateful that I had that one reason.

Within minutes of starting my run, I knew I made the right decision. Halfway through, I was elated-I was finally doing what I initially set out to do. After the 2 mile run in -27 degree celicus weather, I was smiling ear to ear. 1 day later, I’m still on top of the world & in awe that I DID IT. (as seen in the PhotoGrid pic in featured image).

For one,  I detest being cold. And second, I have a lot of self-doubt when something involves doing something crazy, like running for the first time in the cold, on the coldest day of the year.

Its amazing how powerful the mind can be. But what’s more amazing is how one tiny gesture of encouragement can be everything; that it can be the difference between doing nothing or pursuing something great.

And then the other piece of the puzzle, once you get to the point of going all in, is to psyche yourself and tell yourself repetitively that “you got this”.

#Mindgamestrong. The ability to use your mind to hustle hard. Your ability to cognitively push through the barriers and odds against you to come out on top. #Mindgamestrong.

I have to give credit to the power of influence people  have with respect to your mind game strength. Those peeps are like the wind to the flame, which can can ignite & bring that fire to life….But at the end of the day, it really is up to the person to sustain that fire once the fire gets going. #Mindgamestrong

Word of the day

I’m Soiree, not sorry
Celebrating, unapologetically

Word of the day

Expanding my vocabulary & language  usage is one my daily bucket list items. For years, my goal has been to learn one new word a day. Now I get a chance to do just that.
It’s on my list for a number of reasons. Scrabble. Crossword puzzles. Become more articulate. Sound more academic. Become a better writer. And last not but least, maybe if I mix in some mumbo jumbo when I don’t have a hot clue to a question, at least all that jargon will make me sound like I know what I’m saying. Lol.
The word of the day today is “extrapolate”.  I heard it on a tv show today. I have to say, trying to come up with a word of the day has made me increasingly aware of what others are saying and how they are saying it. Go figure, imagine the reason why I do something ends up benefiting another purpose or cause. Funny how life works out. You aim to make orange juice, and then you get a pineapple orange juice. And sometimes the byproduct you get is even better than what you originally sought out for. Now this is what this #SoireeProjectGrowth is all about: uncovering processes in undefined ways. Werd.